We have always been told that running away from a problem will not solve anything. But what if the problem refuses to come to terms with the fact that it is a problem? then, wouldnt facing it be pointless? seeing that you are facing a problem that doesnt even recognise itself as a problem? in this kind of situation, i feel, it is best to leave it alone. which i guess we can term as avoidance, otherwise, we might just further complicate the situation.
let’s take an example. my ex boyfriend. who up till now refuse to come to see the “ex” in front of his status now. explaining the problem to him, does not work. because, he refuses to understand. the concept of “no trust” doesnt make any impression on him, despite the many occasions that both party got hurt thanks to what he did. Nope, he never thinks that he is at fault, although you may grab a few hundred people off the streets and tell them the whole situation and they will agree it is his fault. tell me, who is at fault here. The boyfriend times his girlfriend twice.
you might say the girl is probably a horrible person that is why he timed her twice, but if that is the case, why dont he just break up with someone he thinks is so horrible?
too many examples to cite, too lazy to type so we shall not make a worse impression of this guy who so obviously lacks of any integrity in him.
the point is, he does not think that he is to blame AT ALL for hurting his gf. nope. timing is nothing wrong. (how blasphemous although i am sure most of you guys out there identify with this statement)
after many turbulent discussions, tears and saliva wasted, the problem projector does not perceive what he projected as a problem. so after repeating the same process, wasting more saliva and tears along the way, we are back at square one. nope, we haven even made any progress to the tile beside. WOW. you know i reckon we have accomplished something none other couple could usually achieve. the best part? he is still blissfully oblivious to his role in this, conveniently pushing all the blame to the girl as though she wanted to be timed.
and so, he still bothers me every day, every night. threatening me when i do not pick up his calls or reply his messages. and im just trying my best to avoid him. telling him to (insert profanity here) off have never produced any effects. nothing i say, ever get processed in his system. so why waste more time?
Let there be silence and may the silence fill all the unspoken wrath and words such that someone that unreceptive would be able to recept it.
Quote of the day: Behind every successful man there is a woman. behind every unsuccessful man, there are two.